It’s day 4 of our Backyard Party!
My favorite part of Asa’s pirate party was watching him play with my brother, his Uncle Jason.
The best part of Lydia’s Tangled party was watching moms help their kids paint.
I loved seeing moms and kids color their airplanes together at Asa’s Flying Ace party.
I think God’s perfect plan is to have parents and kids love each other and want to hang out with each other. The world shows us the complete opposite: that kids should be disdainful of their parents while parents are intolerable of their children.
I believe the family is the vehicle for raising and influencing the world. Not the school. Not the sports teams. Not ballet class. Not Beta club. Not even the church.
Parents should be discipling their kids. Siblings should be encouraging each other. Families should be stirring up the gifts God put in each of their members.
I just finished reading a chapter in Mark Batterson’s The Circle Maker about how he is planning a discipleship covenant with his teenage son. This discipleship covenant included a physical, spiritual and intellectual challenge. I heard a story from Pam Ferrell about how they have a family motto that leads their family’s actions. Dave Stone suggests having a Family Mission Statement to guide your family through life.
Another mentor to me in this is Vicki Courtney. She wrote 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son. I had dinner with her at dotMom (along with some other fabulous ladies) and then heard her speak as a keynote that weekend.
(If you read my Airplane Mom post (doh! more airplanes!!), you’ll remember how fabulous Vicki Courtney is and how much insight she has into the reasons behind our parenting choices.)
I fell in love with her before I even met her as I just love the whole idea of “conversations”. I want to lead my children through conversations that will help them in life. And I want them to expect and desire conversations about life with me!
Conversations, mottos, covenants and all these kinds of ideas are HARD to do! They take time and action and planning. But the rewards are a close-knit family, kids that follow their parents’ lead, parents that know and understand their kids and generations of blessing.
But I want to be a part of that. And I’d like to make this space a place where we can journey through this together–to discover how to be purposeful parents who do hard things to raise our kids for the Lord. (Does that sound exciting or scary? Or both?!)