We are up to our ears in birthday party planning over here! I told you we are doing a “Golden Hair Party” for Lydia’s Golden Birthday this weekend. I absolutely looooove kids’ birthday parties. I’m an event planner by nature and I love thinking up themes and gifts and food that will tie a big party together.
I know some people don’t do birthday parties for kids. It’s a lot of work, money and time. If you have several kids, it’s hard to do a party every other month. Or if you have lots of birthdays in a row, it can be a strain. Some people like to keep birthdays nice and cozy at home with just the immediate family.
Me? I like to do a big party. Here’s a little insight into my birthday philosophy.
My Four Reasons for Birthday Parties:
I once heard a Children’s Pastor say, “If you don’t celebrate your child, someone else will.” I’ve never forgotten that. When my son makes an A or makes the cut or gets a new friend–I want him to run to me (and our family) first. I want him to know I’ve always got a high-five and a “way to go” waiting on him.
I don’t want him to look to his peers or any other random person to celebrate with. I want him to feel the most honored, the most loved and the most celebrated at home.
One of the main tools in my parenting toolbox is memories. Vacations, family nights, silly games, work days and birthday parties are perfect opportunities to make some memories. These memories will be like huge rocks laying on the foundation of your children’s lives. It’s not something that will help them make a right choice or overcome temptation, but it will help them know who to come to when they need to make a right choice or overcome a temptation.
Traditions and making memories are tied for The Most Important Non-Biblical Thing You Can Do With Your Kids. Maybe you eat off the same birthday plate every year, hang up the same silly paper banner, sing “you look like a monkey” or eat angel food cake at every birthday, you are forming a tradition that gives security and comfort to your kids.
4. It’s Just One Day
I think there is just something special about giving your child one day that’s theirs. Not in a selfish you-can-tell-everyone-what-to-do kind of way but more of a “We honor you and all you are.” It makes the whole family stop and say, “Hey, we love you.”
Now, I admit, that birthday parties are kind of a hobby for me. I’m not suggesting everyone do as I do. And I’m not suggesting a big crazy million dollar “Super Sweet 16” kinda shindig either. But I am encouraging you to make sure to let your child know you see their milestones and honor them. Let them know you celebrate them all the time–regardless of behavior or appearance. Let your child feel the most celebrated by you.
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