Lydia is 3 and a half. And sometime in this last year the WHINING but has bitten. Her favorites are “I don’t waaaant to!” or “Buuuut…” and of course, “What can I do?” I feel like I am constantly saying, “Say it in a nice voice, please.” (Or a big girl voice or a quiet voice or whatever)
It’s not so much the annoying whine, it’s the complaint behind it. I don’t want Lydia to be in a constant state of selfishness and un-thankfulness spouting “that’s not fair” or “I want more” as a kid OR an adult.
I love Philippians 2:14 & 15 in the NIV,
“Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe.”
I’d much rather have my kids be shining stars instead of complaining kiddos! (Hmmm…shiny stars sounds like a fun craft waiting to happen!)
Anyway, a few weeks ago I got something in the mail that has helped head off the “What can I do?” question and the similar but also whiny, “I’m bored!” statement.
Usually we’ll be sitting int he playroom (which is entirely too big and packed for anyone’s good) and she’ll say, “What can I do, Mommy?” I want to look at her and say, “For real?! Most kids across the world would be ecstatic with just one of your toys.” But of course, I don’t and we go rooting around for a fun thing to do.
Until we got a Happy Gram from Primrose Schools. (They have launched a new blog called Dr. Z and Me which is full of fun tips and information from Dr. Mary Zurn, Primrose’s early childhood education expert. Dr. Z’s first post was on boredom busters!) So, inside my Happy Gram was a Boredom Buster jar complete with a list of boredom busting tips!
Lydia and I took that jar and ran with it! We used the enclosed glitter glue sticks and stickers to decorate the jar.
She was more intrigued with making polka dots with glitter glue than with spelling words on the side with stickers like me. Regardless, it came out looking pretty cute.
Then we wrote down all of her toys on a separate piece of paper along with some of Dr. Z’s best tips (my fave? build a fort!).
Then, the next time Lydia says, “What can I do, Mommy?” I have her run over to the jar, pull out a piece of paper and that’s what she has to play!
She likes it so much she asks me what she can do just so she can get something out of the jar! It really cuts down on whining because it’s catching the aggravation before it even starts. It also promotes thankfulness because Lydia has so much too choose from–she’s actually re-discovering stuff she hasn’t played with in forever. And if you’re like me, you can stack the deck by making a card that says “kiss Mommy” or “sing a song” in there. I also wrote down “read a book” on at least three pieces of paper!
Plus, Asa likes to push it off the toybox. It’s a two-for-one!
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Kids can take it in the car, into a restaurant or just hunker down on their bed to draw, write and color to their heart’s content. It makes me happy just looking at it! It’s a boredom buster for your purse or diaper bag!
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