At the end of our wedding, we did a receiving line. We lined up outside the church doors and let everyone walk by us and shake our hand. One man from my church, who had like 8 kids shook my hand and said, “I’m giving you the fertility handshake.” And I said, “Oh no you don’t!” I didn’t want to have kids right away. I mean, I knew I wanted them at some point. But whenever someone asked when we’d have kids, I’d say, “Oh at least 5 to 8 years from now.” Then when 5 years came, I kept saying the same thing.
Les and I did lots of fun stuff before we decided to have a baby. We lived in 5 states, traveled to 32. We helped plant a church and worked with several ministries. During our 2 year pit stop in Flordia, my good friend Christy told me that she felt the same way about kids. Then one day God just changed her heart and she had the desire to be a mom. That was so encouraging. I always felt kinda bad that I didn’t “want” kids. I just relaxed and waited for that day when He’d place that same desire in me.
And you know what? He did. I remember trying to calculate it out, “if we get pregnant this month, we’ll have the baby this month…” And finally one day I just felt like, “What’s a few months? We need this baby now!” And it was there–the desire.
I didn’t go crazy with tracking and charting. One day after a small group Bible study, we stopped by Walgreen’s and bought a pregnancy test. We took it home, I poas and sure enough–two lines! I was in the family way!
That next week or so, we went to Atlanta for my niece’s 1st birthday. We were at Chuck E. Cheese playing games and eating cardboard pizza. We didn’t want to overshadow Nora’s day but we could hardly control ourselves! So, once the party was over and we were all in the parking lot, I stopped my parents, my brother, sil and Nora and said, “We’ve got something to tell you. Nora is going to have a cousin.” I don’t know what I was expecting, but blank stares was not it. They all just looked at me. No light bulbs were going off. They had NO idea what I was talking about. It was quiet for at least 30 seconds and finally Mama said, “Who, exactly?” And I practically shouted, “We’re having a baby!” Then it was like flash bulbs going off! They all screamed and started laughing and hugging. I still laugh when I think about it. Next time I’ll have to be a little more specific.
A few weeks later my parents came to Bham for my first ultrasound. Here‘s what happened.
It’s one of my favorite posts if you have a minute.
My favorite thing about the pregnancy was how my love for Lydia grew as she did. She could have come out with 3 eyes and I would have been head over heels in love with her. I think that love began the day God placed that desire in my heart.
(And for all you who are saying, “Yeah, but when are you going to have another one?” I think once Lydia turns 2, we’ll start listening for that little nudge from God!)
want more baby stories? Annie‘s got ’em.
I love your story too. I was 31 when I married my hubby so I guess things needed to happen a bit quicker for us :-). Oh believe me people love to ask, when are you having another one? After my son in 2001 I had a daughter in 2003. Both hubby and I knew we were done, were happy to have one of each…and along comes the question (when I’m in the Maternity Ward still would you please), when are you having another one? Helloooo. And you know what, I still get asked that – I am 40 now, my youngest is 4 1/4 and I am loving this new phase.
Very cute story! I went for the babies right away!
The first part of your story sounds like us–I told you the second part yesterday–and only God knows if there will be a third part or not? At 41 now, my whole family and everyone that knows us would freak!
What a cute story!! Have a great Tuesday!
I don’t quite know what to make of it yet. @Biz added an addendum to it sniyag more changes are coming that will make things better, maybe this is just the first of it. Maybe they’re adding threaded @replies or something. I don’t know. I can’t quite get my head around what the fuss is yet but I’m sure the fuss is justified I’m just not quite understanding how I’m affected yet.
Oh goodness … I kept skimming to the bottom of that thinking you were getting ready to say this is a new ultrasound & that you’re pregnant again!!! Which of course wouldn’t be bad, but I kept saying to myself, she’s not announcing this on her blog – is she?? is she??
So after I realized there was no ‘punch line’ (for lack of a better thought) I had to re-read it:)
I’m with Mandi, i thought this was a ‘We’re having another baby!’ post 🙂
We went straight for the parenthood stage!
My hubby was ready to have a child before me, and God changed my mind, literally, overnight like you said! We had been married 4 years before Scamp was born. She’s almost 2 now, and “we are listening to that nudge”;)
That was a priceless moment!
My sweet new daughter in-law wants to wait 5 years to have a baby…she just turned 19! 🙂
I love your Chuck E. Cheese parking lot story…that’s hilarious! 😀
Your ultrasound post was very touching! I suffered a miscarriage after my 2nd child, and it was devastating for a while, but everything turned out wonderful…God sent me a healthy baby boy the very next year! 🙂
What is Embarazada?
POAS took me a minute to figure out.
And yes…I thought you were announcing #2! Can’t wait!!
What a fun read! We had our first one year and one month after our wedding…and, yes, people were counting the months (rolling eyes). The next two were spaced 2 1/2 years apart and then our last guy was four years after that. Like I told Annie…now I wish we’d had more…I miss little ones!
LOL that was funny that they didn’t know who you were talking about.. What a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing it with us today.
I enjoyed reading this! I’m glad your family finally got what you were trying to tell them!
When I told my mom about my 1st pregnancy, she cried. And then she said “What have you done to me?” My dh looked at me, and said, get in the car-we’re leaving. And we did.
She came around, of course. 😉
Your post title made me smile. I had a friend who was a missionary to Colombia who got this word mixed up with the word for embarrassed. Then she really was embarrassed!
God changed my heart much the same way! After four years of marriage, I suddenly got the bug.
Love the new digs! 🙂
When I got to your comment, “I don’t know what I was expecting, but blank stares was not it”; I just started LOL. I just don’t how that crazy moment happened- but it’s still a funny story to tell!
🙂
i was just browsing some of your old Lydia stories and ran across this. Brian and i waited 5 years b4 we got pregnant too. It was so nuts we took a pregnancy test one night after small group too – a friend of mine, who has a sense about stuff like this, asked if i was pregnant. It was crazy. I didn’t even know or think i was.
I fell in love with Lucy and mother hood has been such a blessing. i feel like a much better version of myself because of her. Both she and Brian bring out the best in me. love that kid! can’t believe she is already 18mos old! THanks for this post.
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