At the end of our wedding, we did a receiving line. We lined up outside the church doors and let everyone walk by us and shake our hand. One man from my church, who had like 8 kids shook my hand and said, “I’m giving you the fertility handshake.” And I said, “Oh no you don’t!” I didn’t want to have kids right away. I mean, I knew I wanted them at some point. But whenever someone asked when we’d have kids, I’d say, “Oh at least 5 to 8 years from now.” Then when 5 years came, I kept saying the same thing.
Les and I did lots of fun stuff before we decided to have a baby. We lived in 5 states, traveled to 32. We helped plant a church and worked with several ministries. During our 2 year pit stop in Flordia, my good friend Christy told me that she felt the same way about kids. Then one day God just changed her heart and she had the desire to be a mom. That was so encouraging. I always felt kinda bad that I didn’t “want” kids. I just relaxed and waited for that day when He’d place that same desire in me.
And you know what? He did. I remember trying to calculate it out, “if we get pregnant this month, we’ll have the baby this month…” And finally one day I just felt like, “What’s a few months? We need this baby now!” And it was there–the desire.
I didn’t go crazy with tracking and charting. One day after a small group Bible study, we stopped by Walgreen’s and bought a pregnancy test. We took it home, I poas and sure enough–two lines! I was in the family way!
That next week or so, we went to Atlanta for my niece’s 1st birthday. We were at Chuck E. Cheese playing games and eating
cardboard pizza. We didn’t want to overshadow Nora’s day but we could hardly control ourselves! So, once the party was over and we were all in the parking lot, I stopped my parents, my brother, sil and Nora and said, “We’ve got something to tell you. Nora is going to have a cousin.” I don’t know what I was expecting, but blank stares was not it. They all just looked at me. No light bulbs were going off. They had NO idea what I was talking about. It was quiet for at least 30 seconds and finally Mama said, “Who, exactly?” And I practically shouted, “We’re having a baby!” Then it was like flash bulbs going off! They all screamed and started laughing and hugging. I still laugh when I think about it. Next time I’ll have to be a little more specific.
A few weeks later my parents came to Bham for my first ultrasound. Here‘s what happened.
It’s one of my favorite posts if you have a minute.
My favorite thing about the pregnancy was how my love for Lydia grew as she did. She could have come out with 3 eyes and I would have been head over heels in love with her. I think that love began the day God placed that desire in my heart.
(And for all you who are saying, “Yeah, but when are you going to have another one?” I think once Lydia turns 2, we’ll start listening for that little nudge from God!)
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