I remember watching my mom and dad hold hands when I was little. I saw them ride in the car together without arguing or bickering. I watched them cry with laughter at inside jokes.
I never had a doubt that my parents loved each other.
And their bond gave me security. I felt safe in my family because I knew it couldn’t be splintered. Their love for each other was an example of their love for me.
Now as a mother, I see that letting my children know I love their father is a gift to them. Having a relationship with my husband that is real, true, and deep helps my kids feel secure in our family.
But now I also realize how hard my parents must have worked at having a good relationship. Marriage is not something that comes naturally just as parenting doesn’t come naturally.