Motherhood Is Hard

Sometimes I just get in a motherhood funk. The blues. The blahs. The I-can’t-do-anything-right kinda feeling.

All day long I can feel words swirling through my head, “Their behavior is your fault! Why can’t you get the house clean?! You have ruined them! What are you doing? Why can’t you get him under control?”

Am I the only one?

I had no idea how hard parenting was going to be. I thought as I grew with my kids’ physical needs, I’d grow into parenting. I thought I’d get a few good parenting successes under my belt and then those same ideas would work again. I figured I’d be able to build on my successes and kind of get a one up on my kids.

{Read my full post at Motherhood Your Way…}

Comments

  1. Wow! It’s amazing to read of someone else having my exact same thoughts. This parenting gig is so hard some days. Then there are other days that are a breeze. I’d love to find a happy medium.. Thank you for your post!

  2. SOO true! Hardest. Job. Ever. And you are so far from the only one. I am in a funk of my own and I have the exact same thoughts, on a daily basis!!!! Thank you for sharing!

  3. Amanda,

    I’m running some damage control here. I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. We are both listed in Erin’s blog list though. I wrote a post today titled “The Mommy Funk”. It is very important for me to tell you that I wrote this post BEFORE I looked at Erin’s blog today….before I saw your post for today. I would never want you to think that I wrote my post today in any way in relation to your post today. It was strictly in response to a silly email I received this morning from one of those parenting websites.

    I completely understand your feelings regarding motherhood, and I’ve been doing this now for less than a year! It is definitely the hardest thing that I’ve ever done…and there are days when I just sit and cry over what a terrible job I think I am doing.

    Please know that my post for today was absolutely not written in response to yours. You may not ever even see my post…I just wanted to make sure that I explained myself in the off chance that you read it.

    I hope your day gets better. I’m sure you are a fantastic Mom…these kids just absolutely have a mind of their own sometimes….it does crazy things to us. :)

  4. No, you’re not alone. I’ve found that Motherhood is THE hardest thing I’ve ever encountered. Marriage has it’s own set of difficulties, but at least in that I have accountability (as in, my husband can tell me straight out that I’m wrong (in love, of course) and that I need to stop or correct what I’m doing). But I’ve found that the thing with being the mom is that my kids can’t keep my accountable and say ‘Mother, you’re being selfish right now and even though I understand that you really want peace and quiet, screaming at us is not the way to model how you want us to behave.’.

    Motherhood is the one thing that keeps me dependent on the Lord. “I can do all things through Him that gives me strength.” ~ Phil 4:13 Everyday, hourly, consecutive seconds…..I seek Him for what I need to parent these rascals. And then when I fail (too often!) I seek Him again and start over. ;)

    One thing I told a friend of mine the other day as we were lamenting about this subject and how we are failures – if we were perfect mothers to our children then my kids wouldn’t need Jesus.

  5. Oh we all feel you.
    Email me. I want to send you an excerpt from my book that will encourage you… and make you cry, but sometimes those go hand in hand.

  6. It is so hard. And I just have one really easy one. On a daily basis I feel unworthy and ill equipped to be responsible for his care and upbringing. I mean, really? Me? I probably shouldn’t even be allowed to raise plant life, much less a livng, breathing, fit throwing adorable parasite!

    All I can see from your blog is that you are a brilliant mom – fun, loving and able to hold to your boundaries. You rule! Remember all these comments when your head gets you down and hopefully they will help lift you back up:)

  7. Motherhood is a tough gig for sure! My baby is about ready to graduate and I’d like to ask for a do-over. Every stage brings with it hard stuff but lots of joys too.

    Now I’m going to click over and read the rest of the article…I’m sure it is good stuff.

  8. i love reading your blog. i so often feel we are on the same track. i’ve been meaning to email you but i’ll just post it here…how are things gong with lydia’s bedtime routine. we have been struggling with my little darling. just wanted to see if anything is working for you. lot’s of prayer. scripture and encouragement going on over here.
    prayers and hugs!!

  9. The best is yet to come – teenagers!

  10. Amanda, I love this raw honesty. Can I just say Amen and Amen. And when you’ve got it figured out can you give this gal a clue! :) 15 years of motherhood with six kids, I should have the one figured out with answer in hand for you. Ha. Anything but. Can I tell you the number of times I have said out lout I must be the worlds’ worst mother and what am I don’t wrong.

    Moments. I think it is all in the moments. At least that is where I am at. It isn’t week by week, or even day by day. It is moment by moment. Maybe mistake by mistake would be even a better description. I dunno.

    Patience is our word for the year. What was I thinking? I should have known when we chose that word that it would be tested to it’s very core.

    As far as the motherhood blues – yikes, I know that one well. What works. Well recently, for me, finding the thanks especially in the worst. It helps. It really helps. And sometimes, it’s the only thing that keeps me sane!

    Love your blog Amanda – you speak volumes to my heart! :)

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