Comments on: My First Parenting Scar

By: Paul

Paul — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 15:33:25 +0000

What a great post. I’m a relatively new dad, (my oldest little guy is just 2) so my discipling skills are somewhat un-honed. To compensate, I’ve been praying a lot along the lines of what you’ve written here.

I try to keep my discipline as (for the lack of a better word) un-adherent from the rest of my day with him as possible. I try to convey that he’s disappointed me, and that his behavior needs correction, but once he’s done his punishment and has said he’s sorry I try to drop the issue. There’s no use in my harboring a grudge — once he’s moved on from that action, he needs me to be the well rounded dad again, and I can’t be that if I’m huffing and puffing under my breath.

I like to think, to some extent, this is how God thinks of disciplining me…

By: Holly at Tropic of Mom

Holly at Tropic of Mom — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:11:34 +0000

"I want to spend these next ten years wooing her. Knowing her. Showering her with love." I needed to read this today, this week. I think I take my son's disobedience too personally. Sometimes, I'm angry with him all day. Sometimes even the next day too! Thanks for the reminder. .-= Holly at Tropic of Mom´s last blog ..Ocean kayaks =-.

By: annie

annie — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:07:22 +0000

I remember hearing a christian therapist say that marriage goes through stages much like that of an teenager with parents. Pulling away to find their own identity. I remember when I could feel Amanda pulling away from me and sensing that her friends were the ones she was sharing her problems with instead of me. I have felt that tug away from them at different ages and the urge they have to be separate, but they always seem to come back. I think you handled it really well, maybe God gives us these little doses when they are little to prepare us for what is to come. Amanda leaves for college in less than one month. My baby. It’s so weird… it seems like yesterday she was three like your little Lydia and I had little Bailey, the sweetest baby ever. But I look at her and she is so smart and beautiful, and has such good morals… and when I look in her room to see if she is sleeping when I wake up and see her bible laying beside her where she fell asleep reading it my heart is happy.
.-= annie´s last blog ..wordy wednesday. =-.

By: Brandi

Brandi — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 19:30:45 +0000

So so true! Wog has had some pretty horrid moments over the last few months and it’s really broken my heart. I never really stopped to think of how it relates to God’s parenting. I think I’ve been in time out for a while now.

Thanks for the much needed reminder } to you. And you’re sweet Lydia!
.-= Brandi´s last blog ..Disconnected: A List =-.

By: Monica @ DailyDwelling

Monica @ DailyDwelling — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:24:50 +0000

Parenting issues cause me more worry than anything else. I just want to do everything right and I never ever feel like I know that I am.

I love your analogy to their disobedience and our sin that separates us from our Heavenly Father….it’s so true.
.-= Monica @ DailyDwelling´s last blog ..Mommy Playdate Cards =-.

By: Katie @ Kitchen Stewardship

Katie @ Kitchen Stewardship — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:47:03 +0000

Three must just be the age. I could have described my son just the same way, and then when he turned three (and we happened to have just added a sister to the mix), things got ugly. I was feeling so guilty all the time because my claws were out to protect new baby and my temper was short b/c of lack of sleep, so I know I added fuel to the fire of his anger often. It was a rough time…you just have to say out loud sometimes, “She’s really a good girl.” What a beautiful connection to our Father’s love for us – I’ve often thought about how frustrating I make His parenting job!
.-= Katie @ Kitchen Stewardship´s last blog ..Mental Mission: Boldness in the Kitchen and Aluminum =-.